Celebrating the Grumpy Coworker Part 3: Too Much of a Good Thing | A Workplace Blog

By Beth Schaefer

While I have enjoyed confessing to being a curmudgeon (Part 1) and writing about the benefits of having a curmudgeon on your team (Part 2), even I need to admit, curmudgeonly behaviors have their limits.

Yes, you can have too much of a good thing.  IPD does quite a bit of training with the CliftonStregnths® philosophy which also promotes that any strength used too much and too often can become a weakness, and the curmudgeon benefits are no exception to that rule.

 

Grumpy Staying

Long-term ongoing anger is not great.

When researching, I noted that the new phrase for this is Grumpy Staying.  Apparently, none of us like coworkers who are grumpy 100% of the time.  (Noted.)  In addition to being disliked, your grumpiness loses its super power of extra energy if you are in a constant state of grumpiness.  According to research, there is the short burst of adrenalin that propels us to press on in challenging circumstances, and that burst of adrenaline is lost if we are just mad all the time.  If you are mad at work all the time, you may want to revisit the blog series on The Great Resignation.

In addition, if you are grumpy all the time, people will not like working with you, and then they will not help you when you need it.  I am sure some of you more dedicated grumpy people are saying you do not care if you are liked or that you do not need anyone else’s help to do your job.  I do not believe that is true.  At some point, you need HR to rush a vacation request or IT to update your computer or for someone in your department to respond to your customers while you are out of the office, so you need to make some effort to build good will with others by taming your grumpiness.

If you are having trouble balancing your grumpiness with happiness, take time at the beginning and end of each work day to think of a “positive nugget.”

 

Positive Nuggets

This is a strategy that I have used to manage up when I meet with my direct supervisors.  Even if the meeting is addressing lots of barriers, constraints, and problems, I try to end the meeting on a positive note with the positive nugget.  I find 1, 2, maybe even 3 nuggets (small morsels) to be share about good things taking place in my department so that I leave my supervisor with the impression that despite all the challenges, good things are happening.

Some positive nugget examples are:

  • Sharing how well a team member is performing
  • A positive comment shared by a client
  • Describing how someone from another department went out of their way to help
  • Explaining how your risk mitigation plan caught a big problem sooner rather than later

Positive nuggets do not need to be about the meeting of a goal or benchmark, but it is something positive that makes the working environment more pleasant. Positive nuggets themselves do not solve problems, but they can reframe your outlook to take the edge off your grumpiness.

 

Curmudgeons – go forth and use your grumpiness to improve the workplace, but also be sure to sprinkle some positive nuggets into your day.

 

Series Resources

Fortune: Getting Angry Can Make You Better at Your Job
NDTV: Can Being Angry at Work Make You More Productive?  This Study Says Yes
PTC News: Can Anger Boost Productivity?
Quartz: The Case for Being Grumpy at Work
Sky News: Getting Angry Boosts Performance and Productivity
StudyFinds: Research, in a nutshell: It’s good to be grumpy

 

 

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Celebrating the Grumpy Coworker: Part 1 – Curmudgeon | A Workplace Blog

Celebrating the Grumpy Coworker: A 3-Part Series

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Curmudgeon

cur·mudg·eon

/kərˈməj(ə)n/

Definition: a crusty, ill-tempered (usually old) person

Also known as:

  • Killjoy
  • Wet Blanket
  • Grouser

Most Well-Known Phrase: “Get off my lawn!”

I have written quite a few articles for IPD over the years, so I feel like you have gotten to know me pretty well; therefore, this confession may come as a bit of a shock, but I am a closet curmudgeon.

To those who read the articles on the IPD website, this may surprise you because I write about engaging employees, valuing people’s input, and encouraging chit chat at work.  And, I believe in all those things – no, really… I really do because I strive to keep my inner-curmudgeon hidden during the workday.

(Disclaimer: Truth be told, as I get older, my curmudgeonliness may be more out in the open than I am aware of and not so much of a secret to those who interact with me regularly.)

But now… I may not have to hide or attempt to keep my curmudgeon self hidden any longer.

New research is debunking the myth that the always-happy employee is your most productive employee.

You may feel that some of my articles have promoted that theory.  I would like to be on record saying that I promote how engagement affects productivity.  If you go back and read my articles, engagement looks different than happy.  Engagement is not about sugar-coating bad news or smiling until your cheeks hurt; engagement is:

  • Removing inane processes that create unnecessary barriers to work completion
  • Enabling flexible work situations for life adaptability
  • Thanking people for specific accomplishments and contributions
  • Being a part of a team that includes and respects each other – even if someone is a curmudgeon
  • Providing challenging work that helps people contribute to the organization

To quote the famous Ted Lasso*, “Taking on a challenge is a lot like riding a horse, isn’t it? If you’re comfortable while you’re doing it, you’re probably doing it wrong.”  In other words, easy and happy are not the same as challenged and engaged.

If you are not already a curmudgeon, it’s not too late to take up the challenge. And remember, if it is not uncomfortable at first, you may not be doing it right – or maybe you are a closet curmudgeon too, and you feel a weight being lifted.

 If you are not convinced that grumpy is good, stay tuned for our next installment: Because the Research Says So… (be sure you say the title in your best curmudgeon voice) which is Part 2 in the 3-Part Series: Celebrating the Grumpy Coworker.

*I have a new person on my team who shares a Ted Lasso quote each week – which is where I heard this one.  I hear that Ted Lasso is a “feel-good show,” but I am too much of a cheapskate (cousin to curmudgeon) to pay for Apple TV, so I am not sure if Ted falls into the always-happy employee category.  I am hoping not, but that may just be the curmudgeon in me.

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Celebrating the Grumpy Coworker Part 2: Because the Research Says So… | A Workplace Blog

A curmudgeon may be known for saying Because I said so…  In this article, I am saying this because the research says so.  Yes, research provides solid reasoning for having at least 1 grumpy coworker on your team or in your department. I can provide 4 reasons to tolerate your grumpy coworker.

Side Bar:

One of the best things about celebrating the Grumpy Coworker is that your grumpy coworker will be the first one to be skeptical about a grumpy coworker being a good thing.  Yes, skepticism is one of the talents the curmudgeonly coworker provides (Series 1: My Inner Curmudgeon is Welcome at Work if you are unsure about the definition of curmudgeonly).

Here are the strengths your Grumpy Coworker brings to your team:

1.Analytical

The grumpy coworker brings the correct mood to be analytical.  Research finds that when people are in a grumpy mood, they perform analytical tasks better. Besides being skeptical, you can use your grumpiness to proofread documents, search for numerical inconsistencies, review data for trends and patterns, and identify inconsistencies in new situations or processes that warrant more attention.  Because skeptics ask for proof, they bring critical thinking, innovation, and integrity to any workplace problem-solving discussion.

2. Status Quo Challenger

Grumpy people are more likely to speak up and open topics in conversations that others may be afraid to address.  Curmudgeons do not care if they are liked, or at least, liked by everyone all the time, so they are OK saying what needs to be said. Their intriguing comments can increase the engagement of other team members. Someone who is willing to challenge the status quo helps your team avoid Groupthink and is actually, ironically, a catalyst for positive change.  Organizations who listen to their grumpy challengers are more likely to be innovative and adapt to uncontrollable forces. And, also ironically, the curmudgeons’ workplace longevity is a testament to the qualities of resiliency and agility – not traits we usually associate with curmudgeons

3. Persistent

According to a study by the American Psychological Association, angry people are better at thinking innovatively for out-of-the box solutions and more likely to persist in the challenging work to implement those solutions. Angry is one step beyond grumpy, but I still felt the study was worth noting here. Curmudgeons have standards; they know how things should be done and they are willing to put in the time and energy to ensure those standards are being met on behalf of their team, department, organization.

4. Productive

In the United States, we tend to value more highly someone who is even-keeled as a team member than someone who is grumpy.  However, research shows that anger is the most productive emotion. Anger was the best emotion for problem-solving and overcoming a challenge – more so than cheerfulness, sadness, or apathy.  Again, grumpy coworkers may be more irritated than angry, but they are still on the right track.

Things can go wonky in the workplace.  The curmudgeonly grumpy coworker says This is wonky.  This needs to be fixed.  This is bordering on ridiculous.  We need to stop this. (As a closet curmudgeon these phrases are familiar to me) along with This is very frustrating.  This makes it difficult for me to do my work.  This does not mean that the situation will be fixed or even addressed although organizations are more likely to fix things when made aware that they do not work.  By stating their unhappiness out loud, the curmudgeon can help their organization fix process and be more efficient.

The curmudgeon is also more productive as an individual worker. The American Psychology Association states that by expressing anger and frustration, you can be more productive at work.  When you are unhappy and frustrated, but are afraid to express those feelings, you can waste energy on pretense.   Smiling and pretending that everything is OK when it is not, takes time and energy – time and energy that you are not using to get work done. Passive acceptance of bad situations is not necessarily positive.  Another study showed that women who are happy all the time at work are less likely to be promoted.

Side Bar:

Finally, a study that focuses on women as the main subject and not an afterthought 20 years after the first study.  While I wish it was something more positive, the curmudgeon in me is happy to see that I am on the correct track with expressing workplace frustrations when they occur.

In addition, expressing anger and frustration in a proper manner to the proper people means that grumpy coworkers are less likely to have it come out sideways at the wrong time and directed to the people who do not deserve to be on the receiving end of an angry outburst.

In summary, a grumpy coworker can help you be innovative, critical thinkers who are more likely to address problems and challenging issues so that they, their coworkers, and their organization can be more productive.

But, before all you curmudgeons out there start dancing for joy – wait… you would probably not do that – before you start waggling your finger saying I told you so, know that being grumpy all the time will decrease your impact.

Coming soon: Celebrating the Grumpy Coworker: Part 3 – Too Much of a Good Thing

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