A.I. – Am I Right?

By: Beth Schaefer, IPD Director

A few years ago, I wrote an article about the value of the curmudgeon in the workplace.  One of the values is that the curmudgeon is willing to say what others are reluctant to say, but are thinking.  Today, I put on my curmudgeon hat to say that I have so many questions on how AI will shape the workplace that I should just write a stand-up routine about it rather than an article.

AI – Am I right?

“AI, a Fitbit, and Crypto Currency walk into a bar…”

“Knock, Knock.

Who’s There?

“AI”

“AI Who?”

“AI hope you’re ready because I have already written your project management plan, turned your spreadsheet into a pivot table, and helped you write this joke.”

I admit it.  I have been avoiding writing about the topic of AI in the workplace.  Topic?  That is the wrong word…  infiltration.

And that is my first problem with AI: it is becoming so ingrained in the workplace that it is hard to pretend it is not there, looking over my shoulder, waiting to kibitz. If I do not embrace AI, will the workplace future pass me by?  But if I leverage AI, then each time I use it, am I actually feeding it the information it needs to replace me and make my role obsolete?  I hear about how corporate is using special AI platforms that protect their intellectual property and innovations.

  • My trivia partner can wax poetically about how he uses AI to write code, test code, and collaborate on code to more quickly and accurately improve software for his transportation firm. And, how glad he is that he will retire before his job is replaced by AI.
  • I have heard that statistics as high as 87% of organizations are using AI to do their hiring, including interviews. Job-seekers wisely started using AI to submit materials and provide answers to interview questions.  And, now that AI is talking to AI and all the candidates are indistinguishable, they are moving back to using people to do hiring again.
  • One of my instructors told me about an organization that uses AI to examine data on how train tracks wear out and how frequently to repair the tracks based on the size of the damage and the weather, and then built a machine that can cruise down the tracks, making some repairs, but ignoring others that can go longer without impacting performance. OK – that sounds pretty cool.

I am not seeing those types of sophisticated uses in my organization, but that does not mean it is not happening, because AI can be sneaky.

And that brings me to the second problem with AI; I do not understand how it works.  My workplace provides access to Copilot.  I also have a personal Copilot subscription that I use at home.  I have heard that different AI platforms are better at different skill sets (much like people), but I still have many questions:

  • Where does the information come from?
  • Am I stealing someone else’s work?
  • Is it ethical?
  • Do I have to announce every time AI gives me the assist?
  • If we quit providing original content to the internet, will we enter a collective closed information loop that is stuck in 2026?
  • How much of the water supply am I using up each time I use AI at work?

On the other hand, I do not really understand how I can both see and talk to my friends living in other states without the use of lines or cables, and I use that technology.  I still remember when Jane Jetson put on her public face to talk on her video phone that was plugged into the wall, and we thought that was far-fetched.  I have clearly embraced wi-fi as I am currently working remotely from home in my blouse and sweatpants – thinking about how antiquated the Jetsons have become.

And, not quite knowing how AI gets information, brings me to my third problem; it is not always right – sometimes it uses falsehoods.  I try to be aware, use common sense, and check what it tells me.  I ask it to provide its sources so that I can check their credibility and AI’s accuracy in interpreting the information, but… I am not sure that everyone is doing that.

And because AI prevaricates without even being aware that it does, my fourth problem is that I have AI trust issues.  Does AI have my best interests as its goal?  Apparently, AI has been in my life for years, but through a third party in the background – not directly tapped by me with questions or commands. It has already been affecting what I see when I search the internet based on my previous searches. It gives me suggestions of what to buy on Amazon based on what I purchased before.  Yet, I can watch Anne of Green Gables on Netflix, and it says, based on Anne of Green Gables, you should watch The Imperfects. Should I, or is AI trying to offload low-performing shows?  Who is AI actually working for? Is it me?

And, because AI uses alogorithms – it’s filled with bias.  It can be easy to view AI as neutral, but it’s not.  AI uses what it believes it already knows about us to provide information that it thinks we want to hear. Do we need another Yes person in the workplace? The AI on my home laptop focuses only on recipes that can go into the freezer because twice I have asked it for freezer-friendly recipes.  AI – you do not know me like that!

To sum it up… AI is –

  • after my job
  • difficult to understand
  • sometimes lying to me
  • giving me bad advice
  • just telling me what it thinks I want to hear

Maybe instead of AI training, I need to take a course on Dealing with the Difficult Coworker. 

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Leading When the World Feels Like It’s Falling Apart

By: Beth Schaefer, IPD Director

Earlier this month, I attended a conference on business architecture and was inspired to write a series of leadership articles to promote our business transformation course that starts in March. After the last few weeks, I could not muster the enthusiasm to refine and launch this series. Like many of you, I am trying to lead my team when it feels like our world is falling apart.

When community‑level crises disrupt daily life—such as the current intensification of ICE operations in the Twin Cities—leaders face a painful paradox: keeping essential operations moving while their teams (and often they themselves) are anxious, distracted, or afraid.

This is not a time for me to offer cliches. Instead, I offer specific practical actions you can take if you and/or your team are struggling.

1. Acknowledge reality clearly and compassionately

Avoid overly positive spin that alienates people who are directly living the hardship. Even when there is no crisis, people appreciate leaders who are transparent and empathetic with their communication. Try to avoid corporate detachment, but do not be so emotional that it overwhelms your team.

Put into practice, it looks like this:

  • Naming what is happening without minimizing it – “Many on our team are affected by their children attending school online instead of in person.”
  • Avoiding dismissive cheerleading with statements similar to this, “I am sure we will stand strong and get through this soon.” These types of statements can unintentionally invalidate people’s feelings.
  • Stating what is known, and what is not yet known, and what the department can flex. “Our schedule the next few weeks allows for remote work. Let me know if you prefer this option, and I will put together a schedule that ensures our office response has coverage.”

2. Prioritize human needs before tasks

Pay attention to people’s lived experiences. While empathy and flexibility are leadership qualities you want to use all the time, they are especially needed during times of crisis to provide stability. Keep in mind that team members may be navigating fear for loved ones, disrupted schooling, or food shortages or all of the above along with the daily stressors like aging parents, health issues, and personal finance.

Put into practice, it looks like this:

  • Making space for brief check‑ins before meetings and allowing team members to choose how much they share
  • Giving explicit permission for reduced capacity – “It’s understandable if it is difficult to focus right now.”
  • Identifying essential vs. non‑essential work to assist individuals with prioritizing their work

3. Maintain critical operations using flexible structures

You cannot stop all operations, but you also cannot maintain “business as usual.” During times of crisis, identify work that needs immediate response with work that can be postponed. Make workload adjustments without compromising essential functions.

Put into practice, it looks like this:

  • Breaking work into smaller increments and extending timelines where possible
  • Allowing for remote accommodations, if feasible
  • Reassigning tasks temporarily based on who has capacity

4. Create clear communication routines that reduce cognitive load

When people are fearful and anxious, their ability to focus and process information decreases. Switching to shorter more frequent communication can be helpful. Providing predictable check-in times can build a short-term routine for more adaptability. This provides both a stabilizing routine and the ability to adapt as situations change.

Put into practice, it looks like this:

  • Sending short weekly (or twice‑weekly) status message with:
    • What’s changed
    • What are the current priorities
    • What support is available
    • What the team does not need to worry about right now
  • Scheduling predictable check‑in meetings at consistent times

5. Mobilize organizational resources without requiring disclosure

Most organizations have access to resources that assist with physical and emotional well-being. As a leader, you should ensure that your employees know all the access points before they need them. By proactively sharing, people can access them without asking and without revealing information they may not wish you to know.

Put into practice, it looks like this:

  • Sharing mental health resources proactively through an email with direct links
  • Giving your group permission to use those resources to reduce or eliminate stigma
  • Not asking too many questions or requiring shared information before sharing resources

6. Support yourself as a leader—because crisis impacts you too

One of the realities—especially relevant for department-level leaders—is that you may be directly affected. It’s not unusual for leaders to feel the need to suppress their own fears as a strategy to support their people. Contrary to what many of us think, evidence suggests that unrealistic stoicism harms decision-making and communication clarity.

Put into practice, it looks like this:

  • Seeking peer support from other leaders—shared sensemaking is a validated crisis‑coping practice
  • Setting boundaries for yourself (for example: designated times to step away from email)
  • Being honest with yourself about having a hard time. Selected sharing of your own concerns normalizes the team’s emotional responses while modeling healthy transparency

Final Thought

When people do those exercises where they list leadership qualities, the word you seldom see is perfect. Your people do not expect you to be perfect during ordinary times, and they do not expect it now. Use these actions to communicate clearly, ease the load where you can, and remove barriers for support – for them and yourself.

Sources

Adaptive leadership in Crisis from EPRA International Journal of Economics, Business, and Management Studies

https://eprajournals.com/pdf/fm/jpanel/upload/2024/September/202409-07-018158

How to Lead through a Crisis from The Center for Creative Leadership. https://www.ccl.org/articles/leading-effectively-articles/how-to-lead-through-a-crisis/

Leadership in Times of Crisis from American Psychological Association.

https://www.ccl.org/articles/leading-effectively-articles/how-to-lead-through-a-crisis/

The Role of Adaptive Leadership in Times of Crisis from MDPI

https://www.mdpi.com/2673-8104/5/1/2

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You Can Lead Better Than AI | A 2026 Workplace Blog

The new year has begun, and in place of a workplace resolution, I am pondering my leadership goal for 2026.

These annual leadership goals are not official.  They are not reflected in my performance review.  They are not SMART because it can be tough to measure improved leadership (vs management) performance with a number.

So, how do you approach the goal of improving your leadership skills?

I started with self-reflection.  I have spent a lot of time shoveling snow during December, so I used some of that time to ponder on what I could do differently to improve how I lead my team.

After reflecting on what I could do better, and mentally crossing off the items I have already tried to do better and failed, the list was quite short – OK – nonexistent.

(While shoveling) I remembered that Strengths-theory says you should focus on improving existing strengths rather than addressing weaknesses.  Since I have taken the IPD course Leading with your Strengths – based on the text Strengths-Based Leadership by Tom Roth, I know that my leadership style is Execution – I lead by follow-through and being consistent.  And, even though I agree with the theory, I am not inspired to form a leadership goal on my ability to “make things happen.”  And I smile when I read, “As much as possible, avoid being in team situations with lackadaisical colleagues,” (p.216), but it does not inspire a goal either.

At this point, I decided to do some research on what leaders need to do for the future.  One of the reasons the leadership topic is so interesting to me is that in leadership, best practice keeps evolving.

According to my research, here are the 2026 leadership trends (in no specific order) that you could use to help you set a goal.

1. Determining AI Work Vs Human-Centered Work

As a leader, you need to learn enough about AI to figure out how to balance AI-Generated work with Human-Centered work.  When and how should AI do the work, and when and how should people do the work?  And, as a leader, how are you coaching your team to use AI most effectively?  And how are you influencing your organization’s AI policies?

2. Managing Culture

Culture management is a big arena.  This means that you are directly shaping your workplace culture to be flexible and adaptable, innovative and focused on growth, inclusive and welcoming, and balanced to encourage wellness. You may want to pick just one of these cultural elements to set your goal. Review the Middle Manager article series for ideas on how to intentionally shape workplace culture.

3. Communicating Effectively

Yes, “better communication” almost always tops the list for what workers in organizations want from their leaders.  The fact that it stays on the list year after year indicates that we have not figured this out yet.  Communication is a big, often undefined, topic, so you probably need to be more specific about your goal than be better at communication. One IPD course that could help you out is Leading Teams through Change.  You will learn how communication skills help your individuals, teams, and stakeholders make crucial transitions for your organization’s growth.

As my leadership goals started to emerge, I consulted my text Strengths-Based Leadership by Tom Roth.  The book contains development strategies for each of the strengths. Most of the suggestions for these strengths tell me to spend time developing my skills in coaching and mentoring others.  This gives me a starting point for melding my strength of mentoring with the injection of AI into the workplace.  Because my leadership style is Executing, I need a bit more pondering to put some concrete actions to that starting thought.

As I return to shoveling, I am pondering what jobs can be done by AI, and which jobs survive AI.  While I have not checked with AI to see if this is a correct assumption, it does seem that an AI skill gap is that it cannot do the work of a leader. Fellow leaders, let’s be worthy of our work. Let’s set leadership goals to lead our teams in ways that AI can never match.

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The Hidden Work of Supervisors When a Team Member Departs | A Workplace Blog

My new laptop does not like my old docking station.  Even routine changes — like a new laptop or timesheet system — can derail a day. Supervisors often overlook these routine changes, but for team members, these transitions need to be managed.

As supervisors, we focus on honoring valuable departing employees. Many times, there is build up to their “last day.”  Collecting equipment, transferring files, and conducting exit interviews all focus on the departing employee. The departure is viewed as a routine process, with the departing employee getting the spotlight rather than as a time of transition to support those employees who are remaining and doing the work.

For your team, it is an impactful transition because leaving your team is more than just an emotional moment. One easy tool you can use to manage this transition for your team is the Elements of Successful Change.

Vision

Will the position be replaced?  How will the work get done during the short (or long) term?  Are there more departures coming?  Help your team see the future vision by providing them with the information they need to process the departure.

 

Skills

Does anyone on your team need new skills?  If someone is taking over the work, are they already cross-trained?  Does that need to happen before the departure?  Help remaining team members maintain productivity by ensuring they know how to do the work.

 

Resources

Do your team members need access to additional software programs?  Does a team member need more time to complete work while they learn a new skill? Does a team member need a schedule or shift change? Help your team avoid obstacles and frustration by getting them what they need.

 

Action Plan

Do you have a transition timeline in place?  Have you shared that timeline and milestones with your team? Help your team see the endgame by letting them know what part they’ll play.

 

Incentives

Obvious incentives are bonus pay and overtime or promotion; however, many times those are not options, so ask yourself what the WIIFM* is for each of your team members?  How can you ensure that you are using the correct motivation for each team member? Help your team members see value and purpose in their changing work.

*What’s In It for Me?

While some supervisors may say, “Hey, people leaving is just part of work; figure it out,” I say take 15 minutes to map out how your team will navigate an upcoming departure; it’s a small investment from you that pays dividends with your team by reducing frustration, minimizing disruption, and preventing additional departures.

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It’s Thanksgiving: Do the Butterfly (Not the Turtle) | A Workplace Blog

Have you ever had a friend or coworker who was going through a difficult time?  Maybe they had a life or work situation going awry, or maybe they just felt down, and could not really pinpoint why.

And, you wanted to help.

One of our first (and, not necessarily wrong) impulses is to spoil that person.  You bring them a gift or some flowers or their favorite take out.  Or you eat a quart of ice cream together.  You look for a way to indulge them.  You focus on them. You assist them in what I call “turtling up.”

Do not mistake me: I am a fan of “turtling up.”  There are times when I feel the need to withdraw from socializing.  When I feel overwhelmed, I find a weekend, and I turn down social engagements.  I spend the weekend just hanging out at my house.  I do not have to be anywhere at any specific time, wearing a specific type of clothing with a specific food to share or gift to buy.  Having a whole weekend without any “shoulds” is very freeing.  As an introvert, I find that sort of downtime to be re-invigorating.

However, if I were to do it every weekend, turtling up would not be a healthy choice for me.  If you know someone who seems to be a perpetual turtle because of the stress in their life, consider helping them be a butterfly of kindness.  Instead of indulging them with their favorite things, help them spread kindness and generosity to others.  It’s the butterfly effect of kindness.

The mental health benefits of doing simple acts of kindness are well-researched.  The American Psychiatric Association website has more detailed information if you would like to learn more, but, basically, we feel better when we help others.  (This may be why we choose to indulge our friends who are feeling down, because it makes us feel better!).  However, when you help someone focus on others, they:

  • Quit thinking about their own worries – even for a short time
  • Build their self-esteem
  • Decrease cortisol (stress hormone) and increase oxytocin (joy hormone)
  • Connect to you and others
  • Feel a sense of purpose and accomplishment

Thanksgiving, the season of gratitude, provides many additional opportunities to help others.  So, do the investigating on behalf of your person, and find some ways to give kindness that they will find appealing and easy to do. Then, instead of a coffee or dessert meet-up, schedule a time to volunteer together.

Here are some of my local favorites, but you probably already have your own too:

Feed My Starving Children – Schedule one night to pack food that gets sent around the world.

Hope 4Youth – Shop for and drop off needed donation items for homeless youth or cook a meal.

My Very Own Bed – Make blankets or deliver new beds that go to children who need one.

PinkySwear – Write a letter of encouragement to a child with cancer.

Another strategy is to volunteer as a group of coworkers or friends since it does not single out the person you would like to assist in being a butterfly of kindness. Considering using this website HandsOn Twin Cities, to find an option that works for a group of people to help others, have fun, reduce stress, and build connections.

When someone is feeling blue, helping them to spread kindness has triple the benefit:

  1. You feel good helping the person in your life
  2. They feel good showing kindness to others
  3. The person(s) who receives your kindness feels love.

Go forth during this season of gratitude and use the power of the kindness butterfly—you might not miss turtling at all.

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Interdependence Part 2: The Power of Ubuntu: How Connection Can Change the World | A Workplace Blog

By: Destyn Land

 

In American culture, we are often commended for our independence and ability to conquer tasks on our own. Our society values individualism, emphasizing personal freedom of speech, thought, and expression. While these ideals hold great power, it is equally vital to recognize the beauty that comes from embracing interdependence and the reciprocal nature of receiving help. However, this notion of interdependence can sometimes be overshadowed by our inherently individualistic mindset in the Western world. We must not consider this mindset as inherently negative, but rather as a different way of perceiving the world.

 

This is where the philosophy of Ubuntu comes into play. Originating from the Bantu people and the Nguni language of South Africa, Ubuntu embodies a set of values including caring, harmony, responsibility, compassion, reciprocity, connection, and continuity. Translated to “Humanity,” Ubuntu encapsulates the understanding that “I am because we are.” It entails looking beyond ourselves and acknowledging the connections between our lives and the lives of others.

 

Ubuntu challenges us to recognize that societal issues impact us all, of course in varying degrees. It teaches us to move beyond sympathy and into empathy, prompting us to take action. As the renowned Dr. Cornel West once paraphrased, empathy is not merely imagining someone else’s experiences but rather summoning the courage and will to do something about it. When we internalize the belief that “I am because we are,” we refuse to remain silent about the stories of marginalized individuals and the injustices they face. We reject the notion that we can continue with “business as usual” after encountering stories of inequality and injustice.

 

Ubuntu urges us to seek unity and communal well-being within our humanity. It declares that my well-being is intricately tied to yours; I cannot be truly fulfilled if you are not. Truly none of us can be free until we all are free.

 

Here are some transformative steps to infuse the spirit of Ubuntu into your workplace:

 

Make Room for Genuine Connection:

Embracing Ubuntu necessitates moving beyond a focus solely on individual circumstances. Teams should foster curiosity about the needs of people within their organization and the communities they serve. This culture of storytelling enables employees to become deeply moved by the stories of those around them. Let us challenge the notion that meeting success is solely determined by productivity, and instead evaluate success based on how connected individuals feel to their team. There is room for both productivity and team-building; we need to make room for it.

 

Amplify Recognition and Appreciation:

A primary reason people leave fulfilling jobs is the lack of recognition and appreciation. While we may not seek validation solely for our work, we should never underestimate the impact of recognition. One of the most powerful gifts we can give our colleagues is truly “seeing” them, through acknowledging their strengths, talents, and capabilities. I can still vividly recall the life-altering moment when I felt genuinely “seen” at work. When we publicly recognize and appreciate individuals, we affirm their authenticity and encourage them to embrace their unique gifts.

In the continuous journey towards justice and equity, my professional chapter has taken a new turn, leading me down a path to explore the intricate relationships between equity and health in a Minneapolis hospital. I may have left my previous role, but in essence, I am simply continuing the work of creating a world where all individuals can experience freedom, wellness, and wholeness within a different industry.

 

Reflecting on my time with IPD (Institute for Professional Development), the concept of Ubuntu consistently resurfaces: “I am, because we are.” The essence of who I am today, as well as the nature of my work, has been profoundly influenced by the connections and contributions of this department. It is essential to recognize that this influence goes both ways. The Institute for Professional Development is not what it is solely because I was here; rather, every individual on our team adds value to the space. Each encounter with another human in our workplace and life leaves an indelible mark on us. Whether those interactions were positive or challenging, they reveal something about us and the world we inhabit.

 

To Beth, Metro State University, the remarkable clients we have partnered with, and every participant in the training I have had the honor of facilitating, I want to express my heartfelt gratitude. I am undeniably who I am because we are.

 

By embracing the spirit of Ubuntu, our workplaces can be transformed into harmonious environments brimming with connection. Recognizing our interconnectedness as humans fosters understanding, empathy, and unwavering support for one another. Ubuntu teaches us that true prosperity is unattainable if any member of our community is suffering. Let us strive to build workplaces where Ubuntu becomes more than just a statement; it becomes the guiding framework that shapes our actions and interactions. Together, we have the power to create lasting change not only within our workplaces but in the world at large.

 

Until our paths cross again on this lifelong pursuit of justice, I wish you well.

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Eyeshadow Can Change Your Life | A Workplace Blog

By Beth Schaefer
IPD Director

 

The Workplace Resolution Concept

It’s January, and the start of a new year, so the IPD January article focuses on the New Year and the resolutions or fresh starts that come with it. To freshen up the article idea, I decided to take a different approach and focus the article on workplace resolutions.  A quick search on the internet showed me I was not the first to take this “fresh approach” (You can scroll to the end to see the lists I compiled).

Even as I am encouraging you to set a workplace resolution and pondering my own, I wonder if I need the extra stress of a resolution.  Isn’t the workplace already filled with deadlines, goals, benchmarks, and KPIs?

The Eyeshadow Resolution

And, then I think of the year of the Eyeshadow Resolution: my most successful resolution ever that occurred about 10 years ago.  I was at a New Year’s Day brunch and pressed into sharing a resolution- which I tend not to make or share, but with excessive badgering, I stated that I would resolve to wear eyeshadow every day.

The year of the Eyeshadow Resolution was the year that I lost 60 pounds.

I always laugh at that result and explain it as a fluke, but while researching workplace resolution lists, I came across an article that explained why the Eyeshadow Resolution was so successful. To summarize the research: use your resolution to change your process, not set a qualitative number with a deadline.

The Process Resolution

At the time, the eyeshadow goal served the purpose of keeping people from being in my business, but I had fallen into a bad habit of not getting out of bed when the alarm went off.  Occasionally, I got up on time to get fully ready for work (back in the day when you traveled outside your home to the office and wore a matching top and pants and makeup).  Instead, I hit the snooze button and eliminated parts of my morning routine with each button tap. Not wearing makeup was the first elimination so I could sleep 10 more minutes, followed by other options such as not eating breakfast or not packing a lunch.

 

By resolving to wear eyeshadow each day, I had to quit hitting the snooze button.  To quit hitting the snooze button, I had to go to bed earlier so that I was less tired in the morning. To be less tired and get a good night’s sleep, I had to be sleepy at bedtime. To be sleepy at bedtime, I started doing more exercise and activity.   The Eyeshadow Resolution led to a change in my sleep process which led to overall positive changes for my daily routine that included: activity, sleep, breakfast, and packing lunch.

The Resolution Frame

A resolution is a big-picture change.   While it offers intent, it does not provide a plan.

 

A goal is a measurement.  While it offers a concrete pass/fail measure to a resolution, it does not provide a plan.

 

A process resolution is the key to achieving a goal and a resolution because it contains the first (of perhaps many) concrete steps to change.

 

To frame a resolution as a change in process is easier said than done, but if you are in a resolution rut, this may be the lens for you to reframe and achieve a goal.  I have taken some of the workplace resolutions I found and attempted to frame the process to help get you started.

The Final Notes

At the time of publication, I am still pondering my process resolution goals for both my personal life and my workplace.

In full disclosure, during the past 3 years, I have gained 30 of the 60 pounds back.  Since I work from home and mostly adopted a default routine during the pandemic, it is probably time for me to make an intentional process resolution on my work-from-home routine.

The positive of any resolution is that while we mostly feel that we fail, research provides proof that we do not.

 

  • Even though 43% end their resolutions by February, that leaves more than half who are still forming a new habit after the first month.
  • New Year’s resolutions are 10 times more likely to succeed over other methods of change.
  • You cannot win if you do not enter. 8% of people fully achieve their resolution.  You can be part of that 8% – especially if you are smart about the resolution framing.

 

I wish your process resolution success in in 2024.

 

The References

4 Reasons to Make New Year’s Resolutions Even if You do not Keep Them

5 New Year’s Resolutions for Work in 2024

10 Meaningful New Year’s Resolutions for Your Office

30 New Year’s Resolutions that will Inspire You at Work

New Year’s Resolutions at Work Can Work

 

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Making Your Lists and Checking Them Twice | A Workplace Blog

By Beth Schaefer

IPD Director

Thanksgiving – just a few weeks away – used to be the kick-off of the holiday season.   That is no longer true.   The holidays have crept into October.   As soon as Halloween wraps up on October 31st, people are swapping out their spooky decorations for the next holiday.

The holiday =  more parties and potlucks, more shopping and spending, more decorating and baking… more, more, more… STRESS!

Even though most of this stress is from our home environments, it can creep into the workplace.  As we move into the last 2 months of the year, be aware that the stress of holiday preparations and celebrations may affect your staff and coworkers in different ways.
Read a list and cheers to reducing the stress of the holiday season.

Based on my own experience and some light internet research, here are some top holiday stressors:

Time Management – more parties and potlucks, more shopping, more pageants and festivals, more cooking, more decorating, and more wrapping – all this can lead to more decisions being made with less sleep and changes to routines. Stress.

Family Conversations – so many divisive topics and so much time together – in addition, some family members may no longer be part of the family (death or divorce) and some may be failing cognitively or physically, and seeing these changes firsthand can be jarring. Stress.

Money – while your cash reserves may be spinning downward, many do not even have cash reserves making economic disparities more visible, frustrating, and discouraging during the holidays. Stress.

High Expectations – Besides trying to plan the perfect holiday gathering, finding the perfect gift within your budget, or trying to provide idyllic memories for your children, you may also be scrambling to wrap up the goals you had for 2022. Stress.

Illness –More gatherings also mean more opportunities to spread illness. While this is a relatively new item on the list, it carries quite a bit of stress. The pandemic has made us more aware of doing our part to not spread any germs, but having to choose to stay away from a special gathering because you might have something that you do not want to spread is a tough decision to make – and can also be a no-win situation.  Some will be pleased with your consideration, and some will be miffed that they missed seeing the grandkids or that you could not bring your famous dessert.

STRESS!

All this busyness and stress can lead to less exercise and more eating and more stress –  which may mean weight gain and decreased immunity, or the stress can even lead to physical illness, such as upset stomach, headache, sleeplessness, or even sore muscles.

You can take some actions to manage this year-end stress.

Managing Holiday Stress at Work

As a supervisor:

  • Encourage team members to handle extra holiday chores during lunch times so that workers are present and focused on their tasks.
  • Workplaces can have extra visitors or visiting or parties taking place this time of year; provide some additional quiet spaces for those who need them to concentrate and stay focused to complete work.
  • Remind staff that some people, such as the finance department closing out year-end, are extra-busy during this time and to be patient when interacting with them.
  • Encourage employees to stay home when sick so that you do not spread illness across the department or to each other’s families
  • Help team members prioritize work– especially with their and others’ holiday and vacation time.

As a coworker:

  • Plan so that the work you need others to do can get completed amongst the extra time off and holidays.
  • Check-in with co-workers if you note the stress. Remind them of any Employee Assistance programs they could use or just listen.
  • Be mindful of those who may be alone during the holidays or are experiencing the first holiday without a loved one. Offer comfort if your co-working relationship allows, “I know that this is the first New Year’s Eve without your husband, that must be difficult.”
  • Partner with a coworker and take walks during your breaks.
  • For those who have taken the IPD communication course, remember to flex! Assess the communication style of the person you need to receive your message and then flex your communication style to accommodate them – and remember – we all communicate differently when under stress.

Manage your Holiday Stress

The tried and true include:

  • Eat smart whenever when you are not at gatherings.
  • Skip tasks (do not send out cards) or cut corners (do a cookie swap rather than baking them all yourself).
  • Set a budget for gift-giving and stick to it.

Some more strategic and thoughtful approaches to holiday stress include:

Generate a master schedule of events, prioritize them, and remove the bottom 10 or 15 % of the list. Fewer events and less hustle and bustle will allow you to be present and focused on the ones you attend.  Choose quality over quantity.  Think about planning gatherings with those you missed in December a few months into the new year instead.

Trigger your feel-good endorphins by spending time or money on others. Consider visiting a relative or friend who cannot get out to the big gatherings due to limited mobility issues.  Save money on presents for friends and family and donate it to a homeless shelter or a women’s crisis center. Pack some food for those who are in need. Use technology to reach out to friends and family who may be long-distance and not able to travel back to see their loved ones.

Avoid these questions at family gatherings:

  • When do you plan on starting a family?
  • Why aren’t you engaged yet?
  • Remember when (fill in any embarrassing moment or past argument)?
  • Have you gained weight? Have you got more gray?  Lost weight?
  • Don’t you need a job that pays more money?
  • What do you mean you are not working; what do you do all day?

Mark some days as “off limits.” Mark them off at somewhat equal intervals. Do not schedule anything on those days or nights and use them to get caught up, or just take time to relax, or just hang out on the couch to watch a favorite holiday film or binge-watch a favorite show.

Prepare yourself for difficult social situations (family or otherwise) with these tips:

  • Anticipate awkward questions you might be asked and have a light-hearted vague answer at the ready.
  • Try to position yourself so that you can walk away from conversations you do not want to be a part of.
  • Prepare a list of questions to change topics if a conversation gets heated:
    • I am wondering where to travel this year. Where have people been?
    • I am looking for a good BBQ Shrimp (cake, salad, chili) recipe. Does anyone have one or know where I could look?
    • ____ and _____, I am not sure if I know how you met. Can you share that story with us?
    • I want to binge-watch some shows this winter, what do you recommend?
    • I need to pick the next book for book club. Any ideas?
  • Prepare a list of questions that people (generally) enjoy answering:
    • What are you looking forward to in 2023?
    • How is your (garden, hobby, cooking class, sport, DIY project) going?
    • How was your trip to ____ last summer; do you have any pics on your phone?
    • How old are your grandkids (kids, nieces, nephews, dogs, rabbits) now?  Any pics on your phone?  What are they up to these days?
    • And follow most answers up with, “Tell me more.”

Choose. For those of you who have taken the IPD course on handling conflict, remember there are five choices for how to handle conflict with others.  While you learned these strategies in a workplace context, they work for other environments as well.  Review your 5 strategies for handling conflict and make a choice rather than defaulting to whatever the situation brings.

With those 6 strategies, go forth and have a happy and stress-free holiday season!

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Interdependence Part 1: The Goal | A Workplace Blog

Moving to Interdependence

By: Beth Schaefer

In search of an employee who is a self-starter and can work independently?  Not me.

 

In writing the posting for our new IPD Operations Lead role, I pulled out a word that I had not thought about for a while, but it seems like a word we should use more – Interdependence.

 

Back in a class I took (high school or college – too long ago to remember), I was taught that Interdependence, not Independence, is the real mark of maturity.

 

The theory was that being able to ask for help when you need it and being willing to support others when they needed it was far superior than being alone on your own island of independence (see the chart below).

 

However, in American culture, we have our roots in the rugged frontier which still transfers to modern day with the self-made person.  We love a “rags to riches” story where one person overcomes all the odds to gain power and riches.  However, I am sure that if you drill down into these stories, you would discover they are myths.  Even as I think about the terms associated with independence such as frontiersman and self-made man, those terms sound antiquated and out of place in today’s world.

 

Frontiersmen relied on someone to teach them survival skills, and others to support a supply chain, and others to care for children, and others to form towns and cities.  They may have moved outside “the grid,” but they used the community for support. They were not wholly independent.

 

I think too of the rich plantation owners that built the southern economy.  Self-made?  Hardly.  They relied on forced labor- slave labor.  Entire communities of slaves to build their empires and fortunes.  They were not independent at all. In fact, they may have even fallen more to the dependent-side of the continuum.

 

While we may not use these specific examples anymore, our culture still idolizes the multi-billionaires who presumably build corporations by themselves using their own ideas. The harm of putting the self-made rugged (or now-days contrarian) individual on a pedestal is that we send the message that NOT asking for help or NOT accepting help is the goal.

 

There are plenty of public service announcements that attempt to tell us that it is OK to ask and accept help for our mental health, but I feel like the step of asking for help is still considered a last-ditch effort to solving a problem.

 

Interdependence in the Workplace

We hire for the self-starter independent worker and are then surprised that we find that person lacks the skills to be a “team player.”

 

It is time for us to realize that we are not working on an island.  We need to teach people to work interdependently, ask for help early, and work with others to dream big and solve large problems.  We need to cultivate work places that value and respect this balance.

 

Look for a series of future articles to discuss the philosophy of Ubuntu that provides a framework to lead based on the African worldview of the interconnectedness between people.

* Examples of resources include = ability to comfort, mentor, ability to pay bills, listen, do errands, make purchases, provide advice, recognize limitations, see other’s strengths and weaknesses, solve problems, maintain person and home, give grace

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